
Pet Peeves! We all have them! Those annoying little things that occur that cause us to grit our teeth or perhaps say words …. we shouldn’t say! Accurate and precise communication seems to be rapidly disappearing! What we say versus what is in our heads that no one else has access to can be two different things.
Have you ever had the experience where you acted on something a person communicated, only to discover later on, that’s not what they meant? They may say later on “I meant” or “I assumed you knew….” or “Well, everybody knows that….” You can probably fill in your own blank.
Sometimes a person is not even listening to what is being said, they are just waiting to respond. They don’t hear you out and then they are responding based on ½ of what you are saying and their interpretation of ½ which takes you both in a different direction. I don’t know the solution, but I think a lot of this comes from, once again, our instant society. It’s almost as though thinking, processing, analyzing are replaced by reacting to the first thing seen or heard. In the lengthy season of social distancing and isolation, it seems that communication issues are one of the things that is emerging as a residual of people not having the opportunity to communicate with each other. Do we have to learn how to effectively communicate all over again? Misunderstandings and misinterpretations are on the rise! Relationships are shattered because of the lack of communication and the lack of desire to rectify misunderstandings.
Our communication develops based on our life experiences, our reactions to those experiences, what we are taught, and our own self-esteem. Sometimes the lack of proper communication may stem from lack of self-confidence. We get defensive. Sometimes the lack of communication has nothing to do with the issue at hand. It is a reaction to a foregone circumstance that still lingers. And don’t get me started on the arguments and severed relationships that occur over extended texting back and forth! What ever happened to picking up the phone and conversing? Listening to each other! Attempting to understand each other? How many times have you sent a voice to text message and that thing interprets something TOTALLY different than what you actually said? Am I the only one? Proofread BEFORE you hit “send” folks! It may save you a relationship!
I am Lady Wisdom! A sagacious lifestyle influencer, embracing my journey! Sharing experiences along the way! Challenging dreamers! It is never too late to embrace your journey and live your dreams!
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