There are so many experts on relationships it makes you wonder why there are still so many single women. Granted, some are single by choice but there are others who desire to have that one special person in their life. They just want a good man. So, what does he look like? Where do you go to meet him? How will she know he is the one? These are questions that inquiring ladies often desire to know. But the answers varies because it is relative to each woman, her desires, wants, needs, expectations and so on. I think, though there are probably some commonalities to obtaining that good man.
What does he look like? He looks like what looks good in that woman’s eyes. Every woman has her own definition of a good-looking man. What looks good to one woman, may be an eye sore to another. No judgement. Just truth.
Where do you go to meet him? I used to think that this was a logistic location, but I have come to realize that it may even be larger than that. A woman who is solid in who she is, where she is going, and what she needs, to do will be on the path where she will encounter him in the same space. She will encounter him in the same space because he will also be solid in who he is as a man. He will know where he is going and will know what he needs to do. Too many men and women are not solid in who they are and therefore are not on the right path and miss the mark, they miss each other.
Relationships get overcomplicated as there are lists that are made and expectations that are anticipated. It’s quite simple, how well do you connect with the other person? There is so much emphasis on what you should do or where you should go on a first date. All those things are great but how well can you get to know a person, sitting in a movie theater during a movie? Something as simple as sitting on a park bench together on a beautiful day and just conversing or taking a walk. Connecting and really getting to know each other authentically is at the root of a good relationship. A good man is relative to the eye of the beholder. However, a good man does not stress a woman’s spirit. Now this may be a bit deep for some but if a good lasting relationship is the goal, the search has to go beyond the surface attributes. It’s those things that lie beneath the surface that are worth the journey. It’s seeing into the eyes of that man. It’s seeing how he treats the other women in his life. It’s taking the time to get to know him, and your self in order to determine if he is a good man for you. Just a thought.
I am Paula G Voice! I am a sagacious independent lifestyle influencer. I am embracing my own journey and sharing experiences along the way. I am challenging dreamers to do the same by breathing life into their deferred dreams and living out the reality! It is never too late to embrace your journey and live your dreams!