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Who Goes First?

I was listening to a sermon by the late dynamic Dr. Myles Munroe. He was preaching about the conscious vs the subconscious. Now if, you have followed me for a while, you know we have had this conversation before. It’s what lies in the subconscious mind that truly drives us. We think it is the conscious mind that drives us, but not so. Dr. Munroe gave an analogy which I have also used in the past, perhaps slightly differently. While we see the icons on our desktop or laptop computers, do we visibly see everything that is actually downloaded on to the computer and that can affect the operation of the computer? So much information is downloaded into our subconscious today by what we see, hear, taste, smell, and see. The information is repeated over and over and over! The information comes through all of our senses. We are such a fast-moving society that we are not always aware of how much information is sinking into our subconscious soul mind. This is a deeper conversation for another day. We may not realize or understand why this matters but it does! A recent experience caused my spirit to wrestle. For the sake of demonstration, we will use “Wisdom.” Mr. and Mrs. Wisdom or is it now acceptable to say Mrs. and Mr. Wisdom? How about Jane and John Wisdom or Jane Wisdom and John Wisdom? Now some of you may be wondering “what is she talking about, what is her point?” “what is the big deal?” Some may even say “who cares!” I’m glad you asked.

Men need respect! It defines who they are and the role(s) they take on. Now assuming we are talking about all the good men out there, a man’s role is that of protector, provider, head of household, leader, priest of the home. All these terms have been used to describe a man’s role or what we have been taught to be his role. So therefore, symbolically that should be acknowledged as well. Setting the tone of a marriage where invitations are printed inviting you to Jane and John’s wedding, would this not suggest that Jane is the head of household, protector, provider, etc., etc.? Yes, we are in a society where anything goes. People are free to love whom they desire and are free to take on the roles they are most comfortable with. Personal freedoms are a beautiful thing and it’s good to see people finally loving who they desire and how they desire and doing so unapologetically. However, if there is a constant reference to “he’s not stepping up to the plate” or “he’s not doing what a man is supposed to do” or whatever the complaint is, perhaps we need to examine who goes first and why it matters.

I am Paula G Voice! I am a sagacious independent lifestyle influencer. I am embracing my own journey and sharing experiences along the way. I am challenging dreamers to do the same by breathing life into their deferred dreams and living out the reality! It is never too late to embrace your journey and live your dreams! Visit Paula’s Blog at for the full journey.

Mindset Question:

What do you feel has sunk down into your subconscious that is now affecting how you view the world around you?

Lesson Learned:

What we allow into our conscious matters. We need to be aware of what repeatedly enters our 5 senses so that certain things do not take root in our subconscious.

Wisdom Challenge:

Keep a journal of the things you see, hear, feel, especially the things that repeatedly are seen or heard. Observe how those things may eventually affect you and what you may need to do to make changes. For example, if constantly watching the same depressing news stories, creates anxiety, consider scaling back on the information that is pouring into your senses.

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